The 5 Step Process
For Inner Healing, Self-Empowerment & Wisdom
This
is a personal process that is used to directly work with your emotional
wounds, fears, insecurities and confusion. It is designed to develop your
own compassionate relationship with yourself. This loving connection to
your own human self is the doorway to harmony with all beings. It is the
backbone of my Transpersonal Psychotherapy Practice, my meditation courses
and the self-help books I have written. Practicing this 5-Step Process facilitates
emotional healing and clarity and leads to greater self-empowerment and
self-mastery.
Step 1. Total Self-Acceptance (Unconditional Love)
I accept my right to be human.
Without
self acceptance, we cannot heal, find inner-peace, or grow. We often suffer
because of our experience of being judged by other people. It is our own
lack of acceptance of ourselves, however, that makes us vulnerable to the
judgement from others. We often mistakenly think others are judging us when,
in fact, we are judging ourselves. Every human being has fears and insecurities
and gets confused. Every human being also has natural wisdom and a deep
capacity to love. When we can accept both sides of ourselves, we can then
consciously heal our emotional pain and confusion with our own higher-awareness.
With self-acceptance, the doorway to our true potential opens to us. The
power of self-acceptance is in knowing that our worthiness is without question.
We all make mistakes. We are all learning and growing. In order to feel
free, happy, and fulfilled, we must accept our fundamental worthiness as
a human being. By unconditionally accepting ourselves as we are and caring
for ourselves as best we can each day, we are then in a better position
to accept and positively work with any challenges that we may face in life.
Step 1 is connecting to our own internal source of love that is available
to us always.
Step 2. Total Personal Responsibility (Wisdom)
I am committed to care for myself.
When
we combine acceptance with Personal Responsibility, self-rejection is replaced
with compassionate caring for our own humanness. Personal Responsibility
means that we are in charge of our own lives; that we have the independent
ability to stand on our own feet. In order to take charge of our lives,
we must accept our Personal Responsibility to Love ourselves Unconditionally,
knowing that achieving this goal is an ongoing process of learning. Facing
our issues is much easier when choosing this approach. We stop wasting our
time trying to control and change others in order to heal, grow and be happy.
The key to our healing, inner-peace, happiness, and fulfilment is in our
own hands. By living this new understanding as best we can each day, conflict
and unhealthy dependency can be overcome, which naturally improves our relationships
with those around us. The result is an increasing inner-harmony and self-empowerment.
Step 2 is accepting full authority over our own lives and knowing that we
have that capability.
Step 3. Let Go and Tune In
I change my world by changing myself.
The
key to happiness and empowerment is being able to confidently and skilfully
take care of our own vulnerable human-selves. We achieve this by letting
go of trying to control and punish other people or ourselves when emotional
pain is triggered within us, knowing that self-rejection is the real cause
of our pain. By accepting the Personal Responsibility to Love ourselves
Unconditionally, we instead focus inwards on the disempowering confusion
that has conditioned our minds. As we learn to correct these self-rejecting
thought-patterns and compassionately care for our own vulnerabilities, we
discover our own power of wisdom and healing. As a result of our persistent
efforts, we are increasingly released from pain and confusion and in the
process, we gain an increasing experience of command over our own lives.
As our hearts heal and open, we naturally attract and create more love and
abundance. Step 3 is taking care of our own minds by putting Steps 1 and
2 into action.
Step 4. Live in the Now
I stay present in the now and find oneness with life.
When
we get in touch with and accept responsibility for our needs and emotions,
we are increasingly able to achieve the clarity of mind to take wise action
on our own behalf. Another benefit of letting go and tuning in is that we
recognise the futility of worry, regret and resentment. By working these
steps, we discover how to learn from the past and achieve our goals by positively
accepting and working with the reality that is in front of us and within
us now. We realise that making peace with the past and creating a positive
future is determined by the way we take responsible care of ourselves every
day, one day at a time. We realise that we have full authority and power
over our own minds and therefore our lives. As a result of putting this
understanding into action every day as best we can as we are learning and
growing, our lives simplify, and our happiness and vitality increases. Self-empowerment
and self-mastery becomes a real experience in our lives. Step 4 is by putting
Steps 1, 2 and 3 into action on a daily basis. Step 4 is about knowing that
the power to create the life that we want is contained within how we personally
take care of each now moment.
Step 5. Live the Process
I live the process and gain the power to take command of my life one day at a time.
Step 5 is about committing to this new, empowered way of approaching life. The 5 Step Process becomes a healthy, sustainable and empowering lifestyle. By working these steps as an ongoing process, every problem becomes an opportunity to understand ourselves more, heal more deeply, gain more insight and grow stronger. As our skill in self-management increases, our faith and trust in ourselves increases. We grow in self-esteem and self-confidence. We attract and create healthier relationships and we better manage those relationships we have. Our ability for wise discernment continues to grow, enabling us to manage healthy personal boundaries in the face of life’s challenges. By living this process as a way of life, we continue to evolve into our true potential. We soon have something to give back to the world, for we increasingly have love to spare. Life becomes truly meaningful and fulfilling. We are willing and able to embrace all that life contains. Step 5 is about knowing that we can benefit from every situation in life.
