The 5 Step Process
For Inner Healing, Self-Empowerment & Wisdom
This is a personal process that is used to directly work with your emotional wounds, fears, insecurities and confusion. It is designed to develop your own compassionate relationship with yourself. This loving connection to your own human self is the doorway to harmony with all beings. It is the backbone of my Transpersonal Psychotherapy Practice, my meditation courses and the self-help books I have written. Practicing this 5-Step Process facilitates emotional healing and clarity and leads to greater self-empowerment and self-mastery.
Step 1. Total Self-Acceptance (Unconditional Love)
I accept my right to be human.
Without self-acceptance we cannot heal or grow. At first we think that our emotional pain is caused by not being accepted by others, until we come to realise that our pain is pointing to the many ways in which we don’t accept ourselves. A lack of self-acceptance on a fundamental level is the root cause of emotional vulnerability and suffering.
Every human being has fears and insecurities and gets confused. Every human being also has a direct connection to the Universal Life-Force of Love and Wisdom that is our Higher-Self. This direct connection to the Life-Force is found within one’s own heart, or center of being. We are therefore a human being learning to be our Higher-Self. When we are truly committed to learning what it takes to be our Higher-Self, the doorway to our true potential is revealed. We learn to be the Higher-Self by being the compassionate carer of our own human-self as best we can each day. We can heal our own wounded and confused mind even as we are learning and growing. With this growing ability to care for our own human-self, we are in a better position to care for others. We are also in a better position to accept and work with any challenges that we may face in life.
Step 2. Total Personal Responsibility (Wisdom)
I am committed to care for myself.
Personal responsibility is the total commitment to care for ourselves in the spirit of Unconditional Love. By identifying ourselves as being Souls of conscious-awareness, empowered by Unconditional Love, we have the power to stand apart from our wounded and confused human mind. With the heightened awareness that this detachment gives us, we gain the power to see through our confusion. Whenever we experience hurt and discontent we have another opportunity to care for and heal our painful thoughts and emotions. As Souls of conscious-awareness, we have the ability to compassionately accept our humanness and to learn from our mistakes. Our pain is our responsibility. We are not victims. We accept total responsibility for everything we think, feel, say and do. As conscious adults we have full authority over our own lives. No matter what circumstances we are in, no matter what others may do or say, we have a sanctuary within the Unconditional Love we give to ourselves. With this knowing we can choose the best path to take that serves our highest good, whilst remaining compassionate to others. We can also care for ourselves by reaching out for help. Step 2 reveals to us the vital importance of this absolute commitment to care for ourselves, and how this commitment enables us to recognise how to genuinely care for others without compromising ourselves. This is wisdom.
Step 3. Let Go and Tune In
I change my world by changing myself.
Letting go reveals how to step out of the ego games of blame, conflict and manipulation, and step into the freedom of personal growth and healing. Our life simplifies dramatically when we accept that the cause of our suffering is our own confused thinking and the solution to this suffering can be found in the sanctuary of our own heart and Soul. It is here that an unlimited power for healing and insight can be found. To change our life, we need to focus on and take total responsibility for our own reactions to the world, and the people in it. We do this by tuning in to our own physical sensations, emotions and thoughts, in the spirit of loving acceptance and compassion for ourselves. By staying in touch with ourself in this way, we come to experience the healing power of Love, as our vulnerable human mind is embraced within our open heart of conscious-awareness. We gain a great focus of power to change our world by first healing and changing any part of our own mind that is not motivated by Unconditional Love for ourself and all others. Through this process we gain clarity of mind and the ability to act wisely. Every experience therefore, is an opportunity to grow in self-awareness, self-Love, and self-empowerment. We can change our experience of the world by healing ourself.
Step 4. Live in the Now
I stay present in the now and find oneness with life.
As human beings, we can only act in the now. We cannot act in the past or the future. Regret and worry, therefore, is confusion that disempowers us. We heal the painful memories of the past in the now. We access our potential in the now. The power of conscious-awareness, aligned to the Life-Force of Unconditional Love, is accessed by accepting and working with all that we experience now. In the now we can learn from the past, make plans and set goals for the future, and then ask the Life-Force, our Higher-Self, to partner us in this creative process via intuitive insight and other forms of guidance. With experience and faith, we come to know this greater power and so consciously draw on its unlimited strength. When we forget and slip back into old self-defeating ways, we can pick the process up again at any time and learn from our human mistakes. Every day is a new day. With this realisation, our life simplifies even more and we find we have a greater ability to make the most of our opportunities every day. It does not matter what directions in life we take, or what obstacles are in our path. By working the steps in the now, and therefore staying connected to the guidance of our Higher-Self, in time the right way is revealed.
Step 5. Live the Process
I live the process and gain the power to take command of my life one day at a time.
There is no moment in life that does not contain a lesson. Without an effective process for healing, wisdom and self-empowerment, we are travelling blind in a world of confusion. Having a solid process to guide us ensures that we grow in awareness of these lessons and learn from them effectively. Being totally committed to such a process means that it becomes our normal way of life. Every experience in life then becomes an opportunity to expand our consciousness and overcome suffering. We do this by facing life directly while keeping our heart open to the way our vulnerable humanness reacts to life’s circumstances. In this way, our humanness is continually being lifted into the Light of our awakened consciousness, enabling our life to be an ongoing journey of self-realisation. As we gain a deeper understanding of this new way of being, we soon realise that we have the ability to face anything that crosses our path. We then have something to give to others because, through experience after experience, the Light of Love and Wisdom is awakening and transforming our consciousness as we gradually become one with the source of Life itself.
